Spanking Vs Non Spanking Parents
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The Subject that I am about to discuss is a bit of a controversial subject. I am not looking for an argument of what is right and wrong I am just expressing my opinion. Also I am in no way condoning violence or abuse against children.
So you've made it to the point were your baby is working his/her way into toddler hood which means.... Little one is getting into everything! So its time to start thinking discipline, while at this age most of the time taking kiddo away from whatever he/she is getting into or distracting them from the forbidden object works, you will soon be wondering what form of discipline you will be using on your little one. You may have made the decision when you first found out you were pregnant or when little one was born or even before you started having kids. Either way its time to figure out what type of disciplinarian you are.
This is were the controversy usually comes in there are two sides to the argument, you have the parents who believe that spanking is completely wrong and you have the parents who believe a little spanking never hurt anyone. But then again what works for one parent may not work for another. I've always believed that spanking is okay, it was the way I was raised, but I also know that some situations don't call for a spanking. I've been on both sides of the fence as far as using each form of discipline, I've only used spanking and I've only used the opposite. For me using one or the other does not work for me its best to use both forms of discipline. Now my biggest problem is that people think that there is something terribly wrong with you if you use spanking as a form of discipline, but I refuse to allow my children to walk all over me which is what some parents do when they use other forms of discipline. I'm not here to argue what is better or who is right and wrong because seriously no one is ever right or wrong when it comes to discipline (unless you are abusing your child). But what works for one parent may not work for another parent. Your best bet if you are not sure what form of discipline to use is to do some research on different approaches. For me I've come to the point were I use spanking as a last resort. I use time outs, talking, distraction, and loss of privileges. A lot of people who don't believe in spanking say that spanking a child causes them to be violent and out of control as they get older. But I have seen children who's parents never used spankings who were violent and out of control as they got older so there is really no right or wrong (again unless you are abusing or neglecting your child, that is completely wrong). I think my biggest complaint as far as the discipline argument goes is that the people who don't believe in spanking don't think that any person should use spanking at all. I just wonder why do people think that just because they don't believe in something that everyone should follow their rules and do what they say. I'm here to raise my kid, I'm not here to tell you how to raise yours so let me raise my kids the way I want and you can raise yours the way you want.
Sorry I got a bit heated at the end there but I do get irritated with it. Like I said everyone disciplines their kiddos differently its up to you to find what way is right for you.
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